Life isn’t like one of your standard household electronic appliances with a detailed easy-to-understand guide. On the contrary, life is quite a mystery with hardly any how-to guides and this could well mean we’d be clueless about some of the most important things about life as we journey through it. For most of us, we tend to have some of our biggest life-changing lessons by learning things the hard way. But there is no gainsaying the fact that this is never the most effective approach to learning in life. At times, we could learn the most critical of lessons about life at too late a time and since the ability to go back in time to right wrongs isn’t one that is uniquely human, we may regret things. But if you want to live life to the fullest and quite possibly succeed where others have failed, it would be to your advantage to pay attention to some of the pitfalls about life that open the door to regrets. Since you’ve still got your whole life ahead of you, now may be a good time learn from the wisdom of the modern day sages. Written below are a list of the 19 Top Wisdom Tips About Living You Wish You Knew.
(1) Exercise Your Mind Everyday
Wake up every day and find something to memorize, a quote, poetry, sayings and philosophies. This will stretch your brains elasticity, keep it sharp and leave you with an inexorable library of quotes you can summon whenever you have to make a speech or say anything else. Plant a tree before you ever need one. Recently, there has been an explosion in brain training and fitness activities. Why not take advantage of them? A research has revealed a fit mind could help combat some of the age-related illnesses that erode the minds elasticity.
(2) Reduce Your Attachment To Possessions
A lot of people suffer pain in life when they get too attached to their material possessions. Then suddenly when they lose them life becomes unbearable. You can lose your car, house, gadget or any other possession that you designate as your source of happiness. This is one advice some of the world’s greatest spiritual leaders have heeded, Mahatma Gandhi had less than 10 possessions on his death – including a watch, pair of spectacles, sandals and an eating bowl. Become a person of minimal needs and you’ll become much content. There is no joy in getting more, more and more. Minimalism in life has been proven time and time again to be one of the surest ways to finding lasting happiness in life.
(3) Trade Your Money To Have Amazing Life Experiences
It’s a topsy-turvy world my friend, where you can be the world richest and the next minute the stock market crashes and you are back to base camp. But you can counter the effect of losing it all by “buying” amazing experiences. Money grows wings and flies away but experiences, never! Go on a trip, tour the world, have an amazing vacation. Those experiences will remain with you for life.
(4) Develop An Endless Curiosity About The World
Depression and boredom are a fact of life even when you have the mint. But a man with a lot of curiosity could never get bored. You’ll always be in constant search, always trying to explore the world. Become an explorer, see the world as your jungle, try new things, go on a quest and become genuinely interested in your environment. Get out of your comfort zone and experience something new.
(5) Take Care Of Your Body
The body is like a modern day automobile, requiring meticulous maintenance for optimum performance. You have to put the right oil, gas, and occasionally fill up the carburetor with water. If you don’t do this, one day that baby will go haywire when you least expect (maybe in some dark remote and lonely road). So will your body. If you don’t exercise, eat proper diet, watch your habits one day you’ll break down. Realize that some of the habits you keep today will either haunt you or be a blessing in old age.
(6) Live In The Present Not Your Past.
The future is now. There’s a lot of wisdom in that statement. Your past is come and gone and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to change it. But you have today – which to me is your blessing. It holds the promise of a do-over of yesterday regrets. And don’t drive yourself nuts worrying about “tomorrow” – it’s a blank check. Why not live in the present. Your present can become your tomorrow, and your tomorrow, your yesterday. Today is all that matters. Seize this moment!
(7) Smile A Lot More
Smile. It increases your face value. Dolly Parton
The world and things around would try to give you 101 reasons why it’s just wrong to want to smile. But don’t. Keep smiling no matter what. Besides helping you cultivate a positive attitude to life, smiling makes you agreeable and likeable to people. Being always moody has just the opposite effect – it would scare off your friends. Smile, smile and keep smiling. Don’t stop until I say so.
(8) Watch The News Less
Jim, if you’ve been following the news like I have for the past few months, you’ll have 1000 reasons to cry more, whine more, laugh less and possibly have a heart attack. Today, 5 people wounded in terrible Island, 10 injured in no-mans-land, another 30 hospitalized in No-where’s-ville. They update you with tragedies which can lead to high blood pressure, opening the door to a heart attack. Ditch the news. Ignorance is bliss!!!
(9) Don’t Take Life Too Seriously
My life has been one great big joke. A dance that’s walked, A song that’s spoke, I laugh so hard I almost choke When I think about myself. Maya Angelou
Like Maya, I also laugh at my own existence. Is like a joke. Robert Frost, the poet once said “Forgive, O Lord, my little jokes on Thee And I’ll forgive Thy great big one on me.” Life isn’t some “business” to be had and be over with – if it were that way, it wouldn’t be fun. You have to revel in the mystery of your own existence, be amused by your mistakes and failures and have amazing takeaways. Find a way to take delight in the “little things of life”. Don’t read too much meaning into every event in your life, the bad ones especially. The fault never always lies with you. Sometimes in life, things just happen. Laugh it off!
(10) Offer Help To Someone
I shall pass this way but once; any good that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being; let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again. Etienne de Grellet
Be nice to people on your way up, because you’ll meet them on your way down. – Wilson Mizner.
You heard the man, right? Be someone’s knight in shining amour. Offer someone in need genuine help. What goes around they say comes around. Who knows, it might be this same person who runs to you in your distress. Be a life saver. I was touched by the story of a millionaire who had offered to pay for a poor girl’s eye operation on Quora – that’s class if you ask me!
(11) Read Books, I Mean The Good Ones
I have taken all knowledge to be my province – Francis Bacon
The world we live in today is fast moving from the “intelligent quotient” to the “quest quotient”. The test of intelligence is no more measured by a high IQ score, you have to be consumed by an unquenchable thirst for learning. Elon Musk, the founder of Tesla Motors and Space X and one of the most enigmatic American celebrity billionaire is said have a quest quotient that knows no bounds. It’s said he drills his employees until he knows everything they know and that at an early age he had covered nearly every book on most of his involvements today. He also happens to be one of the few billionaires around the world with a mission to live on Mars. Seriously, earth can’t contain this guy’s quest for knowledge anymore! Take a cue from Musk and read 10x more. This is backed up by science to make you smarter in life.
(12) Don’t Worry About What Other People Think About You
When you live your life based on public opinion you’ll be like a will barrow going no further than you are pushed by other people. Don’t give a hoot to what anybody thinks about you. What anyone thinks about you is not so much as important as what you think of yourself. Ignore public opinion and you’ll be yourself. You won’t become your best version by trying to live your life by what other people say. Quit it!
(13) Set Goals And Imagine Where You Want To Be 5 years From Now.
It’s reported that on average, people can only withstand 25 seconds of direct questioning on their life plans. It’s a very shocking poll for a specie gifted with the power of imagination. Maybe that should tell us why the millennial generation has yet to live up to a fraction of its massive potentials. Live in the moment, but don’t take this as a substitute for planning for the future. Goal setting is the safest way to avoid wasting your whole life.
Goals clothe you with a sense of mission and direction in life and become the blueprint by which you chart your course through life. When you set goals, your subconscious genie goes to work to make them happen.
Most people don’t have goals and fail to plan for the future and that often leads to regrets in old age. Nothing is as worse as “it could have been”. Don’t just join the caboose of people who go through life without setting goals. Ask yourself the question “would I be satisfied with the life I’ve today 5 years from now?” if you wouldn’t then do something in the now that would lead you to that fulfilled life.
(14) Make A Habit Of Letting Go
Letting go doesn’t come natural for everyone. But you can make a habit of it starting from today. Let go of past hurts, betrayals, experiences and where necessary the toxic relationships you keep. If you keep holding onto these things, they’ll suck the life out of you. Let go of your “victim status”. No one but you has the right to make yourself happy, not someone from an ugly past.
(15) Develop A Thick Skin For Criticism
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words cannot hurt me – Children’s Rhyme.
You see, however successful you become in the now or near future, you’ll have your own entourage of critics, slinging mud at your reputation at the slightest opportunity. “She’s not good enough”, “He’s point-blank arrogant”, “He’s a big cheat who never plays fair” are things you have to get used to hearing. So is better to develop a thick skin for criticism so nothing offends you. Learn not to talk back unless necessary. When you ignore your critics you belittle them and make their mud-slinging efforts unworthy of the least of your attentions.
(16) Remember Names
“Remember that a person’s name is to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language” – Dale Carnegie (How to Win Friends And Influence People). Nothing endears you to people more, increases your likability like the ability to remember names. It tells people they are in your thoughts and naturally makes them like you without any additional effort. Next time a stranger introduces themselves to you, remember their names and address them accordingly. No more “Hey!” for you anymore.
(17) Learn To Forgive
The high-minded man does not bear grudges, for it is no the mark of a great soul to remember injuries, but to forget them – Aristotle
Holding onto grudges and offenses is living in yesterday. But successful people don’t live in yesterday nor hold grudges. Learn to forgive those who have wronged you and attempt to drain off your grievances. Never go to bed mad
(18) Never Try To Make Easy Money
The safest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it in your pocket. – Frank McKinney.
Be warned there has been a massive rise in Ponzi schemes and scams the world over. These fraudulent schemes are targeted at “greedy” people looking to either make easy money or double what they already have without any effort. If this is your mantra for living then I suggest you disabuse yourself of this notion. It will make you an easy mark for fraudulent schemes. You have to reap where you’ve sown. Trust me on this, I’d lost money 7 years ago going that route. Don’t make this same mistake. Invest only in what is legit.
(19) Do Not Trust Anyone
When you jump for joy, beware that no one moves the ground from beneath your feet. – Stanislaw Jerzy Lec.
Never trust something that can think for itself if you can’t see where it keeps its brains!” – J.K Rowling.
I’m not saying you can’t have friends you trust. Just be careful you aren’t too trusting of everyone. Ensure too, people earn your trust before you ever give them the stamp of loyalty. Understand that each time you open your doors to a stranger, you also open yourself to the risk of betrayal. People have had their revolutionary ideas stolen all because they set up camp with dubious people. Don’t make the same mistake. Let people earn your trust.
(20) Have An Open Mind.
You may have an Einstein-isque intelligence but never make the mistake of thinking you know it all. You’d become snobbish, obnoxious and worse, irritate everyone around you. No matter how smart you think you are, there’s always someone who’s an upgrade. Learn to listen more and accept that others may know things you do not. You’ll learn more that way than getting opinionated. Be ever ready to entertain new thoughts, ideas and ways of doing things regardless of your line of work.
(21) Never Stop Learning
It seem rather conventional to think that education begins and ends after school. But it doesn’t. Do you really think you could learn all there’s to life in just 3 or 4 years of college? No way! A man once said that nothing worth learning is worth teaching. I couldn’t agree more. In fact, the most important lessons about life seem to come hard after college. Most people stop learning either after college or after they hit adulthood. But don’t. Step up your self-education curve with even more learning. Buy books in the subjects that pique your interests and begin reading them now. It does you no harm being a polymath. You’d be an asset in every way with your diversity. Ours is a dynamic and fast-changing world and the day you quit learning, you lose your relevance. Add learning to learning and never stop at it.